Hello everyone~
Here is a question that is been hard for our JAG and our chain of command to answer and my friend that I work with I think is getting the shaft for. Here is his story: My friend had a child with a woman in the states. He thought he would be a man about it and enroll the child into deer/tricare. He is paying her $500 a month for child support, he is not receiving BAH. The woman calls our chain of command and says that $500 a month is not enough and that everyone else in the area receives $683 (which is for BAH). My friend said hey I will get BAH. They say he is not entitled to it>>>WTF?? She now had our commander order him to pay the 183 bucks a month that he has not payed her. I cannot understand this puzzle she does not have any court order or anything. JAG is not helping because it is like they have no idea what is going on. I really want to help my friend because I don't think it is right to have a commander order you to pay something that is not court ordered and that he has already been paying. Sorry for such a long story but I am trying to get as much info as possible so I can really help this guy out. I know other people that get BAH DIFF and I can't see why they cannot give it to this guy, sounds like someone doesn't want to do their job to me but I am just trying to get some useful words of wisdom and regulation. PLEASE HELP ME HELP A SOLDIER!!! THANK YOU FOR READING THIS.

If this guys is not married to her, has never been married to her, and has not had a paternity test that proves he is the father, then he should stop giving her money immediately.

If the child is legally his and he is responsible for child support, then he should at least be getting Family Separation Pay.

To get bah, he must have a DEPENDANT.

He needs to claim the woman, or his child as a dependant to recieve his bah, which then would be used fully for support of the woman and/or child.

Can see S1/PSB...to get necessary paperwork to fill out to legally claim either as his dependant, which would (if approved) then start BAH.

I dont understand, to enroll into deers / tricare...dont they already have to be a dependant, yes...i think so.

Gotta go with the Duke on this one.
Too often soldiers are pinned as the father just because women know how the military works and they know there is a steady paycheck.
He needs a paternity test and a court order. I applaud the guy for stepping up to the plate but doing this now will potentially prevent problems down the road if he finds out that he isn't the father at all. (especially if he has already given up thousands of dollars).

Paternity should be established first for obvious reasons. if the guy is the father, he should take the initiative to go to court and begin child support. the reason for taking it to court is because then the court would decide what the father should pay monthly.

Everyone is hitting the nail on the head. Your friend needs to get a paternity test!!! Also tell him to keep his reciepts because if she is low enough to get his chain of command involved then she might tell the judge (if it goes to court) that he has not been providing for the child. Unfortunately our society automatically sides with the female. This is sad because I see it all the time, sometimes men want to , believe, but if the child is really his then she should have no problem having a blood test done. Lastly, he needs to get this legally resolved because I'm a single parent and when a child is that young you do not need almost 700 dollars to provide for a child that age. I can tell you that is way too much for a military salary and one child (they think we make so much money) .I'm pretty sure if she wasn't so vindictive he would help her anyway he could. Don't wait until the child is in his/her teens and when he emotionally attached and out of thousands of dollars.FIX IT NOW!
Woman's point of view