Hi April: You are welcome. Each and every one of our soldiers and family members is entitled to respect. You have all earned it - your service to your Country - there is no higher calling. Best wishes to you and your hubby and your family, April. With your resilience and strength, it is all going to work out. The Army wants you to be a great success - the services are there - if one can maneuver their way through the maze. That's why this board offers such a valuable service to our military and family members. We kinda all cut through the red tape here, as far as explanations go.
To April: I wasn't trying to pigeonhole you or say that I am not compassionate in your situation because I know that if my husband got assigned somewhere that I could not go it would seriously suck. What I was trying to convey(obviously it didn't come across correctly) was that when the Army looks at the compassionate reassignment request all they are going to see is your custody issues. Which when making their decision is going to actually have no bearing on where your husband gets assigned. I do feel badly for you and I do hope you guys get to be together I was just giving a real life perspective as a spouse and FRG leader who has helped families go through the process and seen what happened. I do suggest that you go seek counseling since obviously you have been through a lot. My husband has been in the Army for 14 years and in that time there is a bigger emphasis on families however they still must be mission capable first and worry about families second and again I was trying to emphasize that and not that you were some needy wife that just wanted to whine. I wasn't nor can I judge what is going on in your life since I don't know you and I apologize if I seemed uncaring or abrupt but I stress to any wife that I deal with that being married to a SM is not a cake walk and it will suck sometimes and sometimes you just can't get what you want but you make the best of it and move on. Again I apologize if I seem abrupt it's not meant to be.
Posts: 75 | Location: Fort Carson, Colorado | Registered: 23 October 2009
It's okay, I have been a tad bit sensitive lately and I am trying not to be. I guess I feel like if I explain my situation, maybe people will understand me better. Anyways, I have a cousin who is a Sgt. Major and one that is a SSgt. so they have told us to go ahead with the packet. I guess I am a little scared cause I don't see that our situation falls within the reasons why. My Sgt. Major cuz said that there are always special situations, but I am totally prepared for the worst. He only had 3 more years left in the army so if it doesn't go through, then we will just have to live with that. I think what we are both scared about is another deployment, but hey, even if he got reassigned it might still have to go as well. And like you said, he might not even get in Texas which would mean another court battle. The bad thing right now is we signed a rental agreement for a house in Alaska and had all our stuff shipped up there...yeah, ALL of the kids stuff and clothes, etc. is there too. Do you know if we do get turned down, is there any way of getting our stuff back to Texas and getting him out of that lease so we can at least get BAH here? Thanks again!
Posts: 5 | Location: East Texas | Registered: 16 March 2010
Originally posted by GS Girl: Hi 68A: I am very sorry to hear about the diagnosis for your little child. There are many administrative gurus here on the board who can respond to you on your specific questions. But I have one for you - did the hospital social workers file for SSI for your child while he is/was in the hospital there? Your child's SSI application will be processed immediately and benefits will be payable ASAP, depending upon your family's income and resources, and the deeming issues.
I'm not sure what an SSI is, could you explain? If its about EFMP than yes he is now enrolled. I'm not having issues paying medical bills since tricare is paying for everything. My main concern is staying here for my son and wife while he endures chemo. I spoke with my CoC today and they told me that I won't get compassionate reassignment because his chemo will last longer than 1 year, but I have a good chance of my orders to Korea being cancelled.
Hi: SSI is Social Security, Supplemental Security Income (SSI). For E-5's and below, the Feds will pay disability benefits, about $500.00 a month, to a severely disabled family member. Usually, the hospital social workers know about the program and file for the benefits for the disabled child. However, if your income is too high, then they would not file. I have helped families file for SSI for many different diagnoses, including autism, and they were paid their benefits. If your income falls in the E-5 or below category, let me know and I will clue you in on the filing procedures.
Hello friends... I too need a little guidance with my situation, so please help me. I am the mother of a 9mo girl who has been diagnosed with hearing loss. This Friday she will be getting her hearing aides on both ears. Because she's a baby and now she will be building her vocabulary and learning how to speak, a speech therapist will be needed to follow her progress and to monitor weather the aides are doing what they are supposed to. She has a neural hearing loss which means it will not get better, if anything, it could get worse. She needs to be monitored for that as well. My husband is living in our house in Germany, but I'm getting care for her here in the states. Those services are not available where we are living in Germany. Do we have a strong care for Compassionate Reassignment? If so, what is the first step and how long does it take to start the move given we were approved??
Hi Phia's Mom: The military members here will give you a better idea of whether or not the CofC will approve a compassionate reassignment. 1. Is your baby enrolled in the EFMP Program? 2. Is she enrolled in the TRICARE ECHO Program? 3. Are you E-5 or lower and can your family qualify for SSI disability for your child based on income and resources? 4. Have you gone to the EFMP specialist at the MTF or ACS and told them that the services are not available in Germany where you are, and you would like to look into requesting a compassionate reassignment? Normally, they will have to certify that the services are not there, and they will have to certify wherever it is you want to go, that the services will be there. Best wishes!
Hi GS Girl, I was anxiously awaiting your reply as I saw how prompt you are in responding to us anxious folks!!! Thank you for that or to anyone else who will reply with some good advise!! Let me answer your questions.. 1. What is CofC? 2. Is your baby enrolled in the EFMP Program? The packet is being submitted as we speak!! 3 Is she enrolled in the TRICARE ECHO Program? Not sure what the TRICARE ECHO program is, but she is enrolled in TRICARE Prime. 4 Are you E-5 or lower and can your family qualify for SSI disability for your child based on income and resources? No, my husband is E-6 with 11 years of active duty service. 5 Have you gone to the EFMP specialist at the MTF or ACS and told them that the services are not available in Germany where you are, and you would like to look into requesting a compassionate reassignment? I believe my husband did. She told them that there is aren't any services that we need available to us. But she's not the one who approves the EFMP right? They are just there to give you information? I'm very afraid that it will be denied and our daughter will be without the professional help and therapy that she needs. Thank you again for all your help on this matter.
1. Chain of Command 2. Good! 3. TRICARE ECHO means "Extended Care Health Option" available only to active duty EFMP family members under one of three conditions. (See www.tricare.osd.mil and then link on ECHO) Your child's condition possibly qualifies under " a serious physical disability". There is a cost to the family of an E-6 - $30.00 per month. There are extensive benefits available under ECHO for a disabled/handicapped family member. I encourage you to go to the tricare website to check them out. Many, many EFMP families are enrolled in ECHO. I would also call the EFMP specialist at the MFT or ACS to ask them if your child would benefit from ECHO. (The Army is now hiring and has openings, for military spouses too, for GS EFMP Program Navigators, who lead EFMP families through the maze of programs and services available to families that they might not know about. Great idea!) 4. Call Military One Source from the states at 1-800-342-9647, 24/7. From Germany, you call this same number, 24/7, collect, and they have Master degreed social workers who specialize in Special Needs Family Members services. I just ordered some materials for another spouse and child from them. 5. It is my understanding that your hubby has to find a slot where this place is that you think will have the adequate medical services available in CONUS. Your hubby's chain of command will know how he is to start the process to request a compassionate reassignment. It is a function of S-1, Military Personnel. Normally, not in all cases, but from what I have seen, it is not automatic. The NCO's/soldiers on here and FRG Leaders and other family members can answer you better based on their personal experiences. 6. In ACS we are very empathetic but we are a Commander's program. Your best bet would be to work very, very closely with the EFMP Department at the Medical Treatment Facility on your request, and whatever your hubby finds out at work! There are forms to complete. 7. There is an organization that supports military EFMP families 100% and they are hooked up on many forts and bases. They are called STOMP. Google them and find some points of contact for you - they will offer you support as you go through this process.
I, and all ACS folks are just happy that the Army is now hiring more people to help our EFMP families. Best wishes to you always!
GS Girl... Thank you very much for all your feedback and help on my matter at hand!!! I REALLY appreciate your time and concern! It's not everyday that you come across people who are willing to help and be patient!!
I got in contact with our EFMP contact lady this morning! All she's waiting for our EFMP application (which is on it's way)!! I hope it get's approved and our little girl gets the professional help and treatment that she needs!!!
Hi Phia's Mom: Your sweet little girl has a wonderful Mother. I looked up STOMP this morning - the website is: www.stompproject.org. Their name is Specialized Training of Military Parents, and they are federally funded. There is more emphasis on the EFMP program now than in the past. If ever there was a time, that your compassionate reassignment was to be granted, it could be now! Thank you for the compliment. I enjoy being of service to each very special ACS client. I will keep my fingers crossed for you and hubby and Phia!
We have accomplished many things since the last time you and I wrote! The pediatrician here in Germany along with all the doctors in Miami have written letters discussing our daughters much needed treatment. We have submitted our EFMP packet and are awaiting for a response any day now. My husband has also gone ahead and filled out the DA3739. Basically all he's waiting for is a response so he can turn in the application to S1 along with all the doctors letters for the reassignment.
Now here is where we are having some doubts and questions.... My husbands DEROS date is October 2011 and ETS is in November 2011. Will these dates have any influence on the decision for compassionate reassignment? As far as your concerned, will he have to re-enlist in order to be approved? Like I mentioned to you before, he's an E6 with 11 years active service. Weather or not he signs "indef" is still in question. We are seeking to move to Miami (SOUTHCOM) where not only does she have all the treatment and help we need for her, but the support from both our families and friends are there as well. The tricky question is, he's 13b (Combat Arms). What do you suggest he do so that we can increase our chances of getting there???
Thank you again for all your valuable insight and information!!!
Hi Phia's Mom: So good to hear things are moving along well. I have an ACS contact in Miami, as a matter of fact, for when you hopefully (fingers crossed) make the move. Your question I will have to research tomorrow when I can make some calls when everything is open. Which I will do and get back to you. There are some military member gurus or maybe military spouses here on the board who do have specific training and knowledge on your specific question here today, and maybe they are available to jump in. In the meantime, be back with you tomorrow and I am very happy for you and Phia and your family! I just assisted another client EFMP family that is over income and resources for SSI - but their child - because of the severity of his disability - he is eligible for Medicaid and we got the family, In Home Supportive Services, caregiving benefits - these benefits can pay a family member or friend up to $33,000.00 a year to take care of the disabled child. But first things first. Getting to Miami #1! Hasta manana, amiga!
Great to hear you have a contact in Miami! Makes me feel a little more at ease. Apparently no one has any info. for me on here but you. LOL Which is ok given you have given me so much already and continue to help us. EFMP on our end was approved and so when my husband went to speak to his S1, she was out on leave till end of next week. He coulden't get much information because it seems as if she was the only one who knows anything on Compassionate Reasingment. I believe he was told he now needs to go to G1 tomorrow. This process cannot drag on any further. I look forward to hearing from you and any information you might have for us!!! Hasta la vista amiga!!
Yes, Phia's Mom. G-1 is respectfully the ticket. I know that from working closely with S-1 - some of the most dedicated and hard working people I have ever met in my life are in there. I am surprised the S-1 person got permission to take off! I am so delighted you and hubby are very proactive. You have to be. Too many people find that out too late. At USAREC, for example, the reg states clearly that the ACS person in the gaining Battalion will be contacted prior to assignment of an EFMP family. Was that reg followed? Not until recently, hopefully, after many fiascoes, such as a family PCSing, and renting out their former home - then they get to the USAREC BN, and the ACS person did not know they were coming so a search for matching EFMP services was not done. Therefore, it has not been unusual that the EFMP family gets to the new location, no matching EFMP services! The EFMP child suffers, the Recruiter suffers, the spouse suffers, the other children suffer from the stress. Then it takes an act of God to get them out of the new Battalion and get them back to their home where the services are available!
By then, in this economy, many negative scenarios can arise - such as the out of state renter in the meantime trashed the house, stopped paying rent and took off, and then maybe the family loses the house before they get home because they can't afford the mortgage anymore, etc, then their credit gets ruined.
The Army/USAREC is totally on this issue now and hiring EFMP Program Navigators, (GS-11's),they are called, to assist EFMP families in ensuring they get all of the services they are entitled to!
Phia's Mom, it is a pleasure working with you. Today, I am working on a couple of other client rush issues and am getting a little behind and I may not be able to get back with you until tomorrow. Therefore, hasta manana, amiga!
Close your eyes now, Phia's Mom.
I have a message for the bullies on these forums. It is unlady like of me but this forum is not like being at work, so bullies, here's my message before you start in, "shut the f--- up".