My fiance joined as an MP and is in basic right now. I've wanted to join the army since before I met him and I still would like to. He was more understanding before he left saying if I wanted to join I could do it after awhile but now that he's there he's said he reeeaally doesn't want me to join.
I'm in college at the moment taking prerequisites to get into a nursing program. I want to join because it's an experience that you can't have as a civilian, the army will teach me discipline and just lessons that will help me later in civilian life. I would really like to be a part of a team and the army can give me that.
I'd actually like to join as an MP as well... if I did join would that give us a better chance of being stationed together since it's the same MOS? Also what could I say that would help convince him that it's ok for me to join? and last question... what exercises can I do to get in shape for bct (just in case) thanks for your time
i'm not fully sure how it works (but i know someone on here is) but why don't you get your commission and do rotc while completing your schooling as an rn and become a nurse with the army. there is no duty station that doesn't need them so your being stationed together would be highly likely after you are married and do all the right paperwork.
as far as convincing him goes, that's between ya'll. you do need support from your family (future husband) but at the same time it is your decision, that's just my own opinion though...
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Posts: 255 | Location: Fort Campbell, KY | Registered: 15 February 2008
The problem with your suggestion is that if her husband is enlisted and she would be an officer, it would be ok by regulation if they are married prior to her joining, but they are governed by two separate branches of people...meaning the Army is not going to put a huge effort into trying to keep them together...the officer branch has their needs and the MP enlisted branch has theirs.
I wouldn't bet on the Army making good on keeping an officer and enlisted together. That's not to say that he could get put somewhere where nurses are needed and they could get lucky, but she could get assigned to BAMC or some place where MPs do not have many slots.
I am a recruiter and unless your married there is no guarantee you will be stationed together since they do not offer station of choice as an enlistment option. It is an excellent option to enlist and I think you should look into it. The reason he doesnt want you to enlist is because he now sees the male to female ratio and how females are pursued by the fellas. The majority(Not all) of the males dont care if the female is married or not. But thats just my opinion on why he doesnt want you to join.
Originally posted by 35M3L00PF: The problem with your suggestion is that if her husband is enlisted and she would be an officer, it would be ok by regulation if they are married prior to her joining, but they are governed by two separate branches of people...meaning the Army is not going to put a huge effort into trying to keep them together...the officer branch has their needs and the MP enlisted branch has theirs.
I wouldn't bet on the Army making good on keeping an officer and enlisted together. That's not to say that he could get put somewhere where nurses are needed and they could get lucky, but she could get assigned to BAMC or some place where MPs do not have many slots.
actually, we have a few friends who are officer/enlisted married and they are kept together ok. only once have they had to wait more than a month to meet back up with each other. with the medical field, even as an officer, you usually get your first choice when pcsing, at least those i know always have. there is that every so often where you are like "where the hell did these orders come from" but for the most part there is always a slot for a medic or nurse waiting to be filled somewhere, they don't have to be in the same unit, just the same post.
you are right however about them getting married before she enlists, as an officer or enlisted you won't get stationed together so easily otherwise.
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Posts: 255 | Location: Fort Campbell, KY | Registered: 15 February 2008
We're planning on getting married when he gets back from AIT so I'll probably live on base with him for a while before I do join. I could do the officer thing but that would take some time to do. I'll definitely look into all the options before I do join (that is if I can convince him its ok).
I can definitely see why the female male ratio would make him not want me to join. I'll keep dropping hints that I really want to and see where it goes until he's out of BCT and AIT then I'll be puttin on the charm
Originally posted by 35M3L00PF: The problem with your suggestion is that if her husband is enlisted and she would be an officer, it would be ok by regulation if they are married prior to her joining, but they are governed by two separate branches of people...meaning the Army is not going to put a huge effort into trying to keep them together...the officer branch has their needs and the MP enlisted branch has theirs.
I wouldn't bet on the Army making good on keeping an officer and enlisted together. That's not to say that he could get put somewhere where nurses are needed and they could get lucky, but she could get assigned to BAMC or some place where MPs do not have many slots.
actually, we have a few friends who are officer/enlisted married and they are kept together ok. only once have they had to wait more than a month to meet back up with each other. with the medical field, even as an officer, you usually get your first choice when pcsing, at least those i know always have. there is that every so often where you are like "where the hell did these orders come from" but for the most part there is always a slot for a medic or nurse waiting to be filled somewhere, they don't have to be in the same unit, just the same post.
you are right however about them getting married before she enlists, as an officer or enlisted you won't get stationed together so easily otherwise.
Trust me, your going to want to be an officer. Its much better all around. If you are going to join the Army, its alot easier to come in as a Lieutenant than it is a private.
Posts: 89 | Location: Ft.Myer, VA | Registered: 01 January 2006
Originally posted by cryptically: I can definitely see why the female male ratio would make him not want me to join.
Because he doesn't trust you? (Sounds like insecurity to me)
He does have some insecurity issues actually... he's had a few bad relationships before me and I'm sure he's thinking about all the possibilities. He told me that he didn't want me to have to go through basic because red phase was one of the worst times of his life. I'm not exactly sure of what his reasoning is because we've only talked a limited amount of time since he's in basic but I'll find them out soon enough.
Haha I was going to state earlier today that you should get married before you come in, more so if you get your commission (sp). I have a college degree behind me and I became enlisted. It really depends on what you want to do.
Your fiance is going MP, honestly its not really a male to female thing. Please lets get over that, I'm already dealing with that everyday, you can't because your a female, we are going to make you do this because your a female. Yes it is in the Army put as leaders we should change that.. Ok back to the MP thing. He is doing BCT and AIT all in one shot I would guess. He is most likely seeing how hard the Army is starting out for a female. (yup back to that famous issue) That is true coming in for the most part we are not ready to adjust as fast as a male might be able to. But all of the male/female talk aside, and its going to happen until leaders stand up and start to put a stop to the whole thing, so moving on....
Personally if you do join I would not pick the same MOS as your fiance, it will be good to know what their MOS is all about but if you get on the same post, more so with the MP's your likely to get in the same Battalion, not the same unit and more so not the same platoon, but honestly pick a different MOS so that your not with your husband when it comes to getting married 24-7 you will both go nuts I would think.
I agree with AR... a little insecutiry so it seems, but we are not getting the whole story as to why he does not want you to join. If you do end up joining, stand up for yourself, carefully since you will be new to the service but make it known that "you have a man" and not to mess with you.
ok short and sweet... get married before she joins the army, think about being in the same mos as her fiance. working together then going home together might end up being a little much.
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(Sounds like insecurity to me)
