I'm a single parent and stationed in Germany. We recently suffered the loss of my daughter's father in Sept '06, since then I've been trying to manage with my FCP (family care plan). But has now became very difficult. In Oct '06, I was the passenger in a DUI related incident. I was counseled, placed in ASAP and recommended for an Article 15. It was denied. In Jan '07 I was involved in another DUI related incident, the group of soldiers I went out with, left me and one other soldier behind. I took him home and as he expressed his intentions for me to stay with him, I refused. He called the main gate of the installation my vehicle was on and told them I had been drinking. I was given a breathalizer test and read a "Refusal". No statement was taken, no rights read, waited 'til 0800 when an E-6 was available to pick me up. I expressed to my chain of command how difficult my FCP had been during Guard Duty and my daughter's dealing with the loss has been very difficult for her (4 yo) and made me want to get out on a FCP chapter. My 1st Sgt is trying to chapter me out for patterns of misconduct, she refused to do my FCP counseling, at least unitl I called IG. They counseled me on my FCP and the DUI in Mar '07 and now my NCOIC reported to me that 1st Sgt stated she was putting in for an Article 15 for a DUI and a Chapter 14 for Patterns of Misconduct. I wrote my Cngress and made them aware of my situation. What other steps should I take.I want to get out but not under these conditions.
First, I am sorry for the loss of your daughter's father. It's never easy losing someone close to you or your children.
Now, this doesn't excuse your poor decisions. I'm not going to get into the whys, but you are a parent and you are out partying and getting DUIs (driving or passenger). Who takes care for your child when you're out all night?
If I were your chain of command, I would definitely counsel you on your FCP, but, I would do everything in my power to award you an Article 15 and chapter you out for your DUI related incidents. The FCP is only secondary to the way you're beginning to ruin you and your daughters life.
One last thing, instead of "mistreated_soldier", why not come up with a more appropriate username. You're not the one being mistreated, your daughter is.
How much more typical to assume a soldier is continueously irresponsible. My being a passenger was a wise choice after 3 drinks... would you have prefered I drove? My second incident, I did the responsible thing and not drink. Would you have prefered I stay with an intoxicated individual and perhaps obtained bodily harm? As for "ruining" mine and my daughter's life... furthering my education and acquire my DDS is bettering our future. I understand perhaps the military has been the right choice for YOU, but on the other hand, education and a real career is the one for me. The Army was definitely an experience. Thank you for your assistance though, greatly appreciated.
Originally posted by mistreated_soldier: How much more typical to assume a soldier is continueously irresponsible. My being a passenger was a wise choice after 3 drinks... would you have prefered I drove? My second incident, I did the responsible thing and not drink. Would you have prefered I stay with an intoxicated individual and perhaps obtained bodily harm? As for "ruining" mine and my daughter's life... furthering my education and acquire my DDS is bettering our future. I understand perhaps the military has been the right choice for YOU, but on the other hand, education and a real career is the one for me. The Army was definitely an experience. Thank you for your assistance though, greatly appreciated.
ok so if this is all true, what's the big deal. Take your punishment and drive on. Have a nice day
Posts: 62 | Location: Fort Polk...4thBDE 10th MTN for a while | Registered: 17 July 2006
Ditto on Bruins4ever. Drive on and make the best of your life, civilian or military. First things first, get off the juice. It is the fastest way to end a successful career (civi or military).
Posts: 20 | Location: Ft Benning, GA | Registered: 27 August 2005
Originally posted by mistreated_soldier: In Jan '07 I was involved in another DUI related incident, the group of soldiers I went out with, left me and one other soldier behind. I took him home and as he expressed his intentions for me to stay with him, I refused. He called the main gate of the installation my vehicle was on and told them I had been drinking. I was given a breathalizer test and read a "Refusal".
So are you saying you were drinking and driving or not? I am reading this as if you were drinking and driving.
Originally posted by mistreated_soldier: How much more typical to assume a soldier is continueously irresponsible.
Assume? You said it yourself?!?!?
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Originally posted by mistreated_soldier:My being a passenger was a wise choice after 3 drinks... would you have prefered I drove?
Is it responsible to get in a vehicle with a person that has been drinking? It THAT responsible? GET A CAB!!!
I see that the only one that will be affected in all of this is your daughter. You seem to think you're doing nothing wrong and everyone is out to get you. Change your ways!
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