I feel your pain. My husband just got back from Iraq with a unit in Ft. Polk, LA. I just deployed with a unit in Germany. Here are a few main points to help the Army work with you. Are you enrolled in the MACP? Do you have both of your information updated in DEERS? Is he stationed on the same post as you, in the same state, country? Be careful about reenlisting for something, stop-loss/ movement can make you delay your movement by up to 12 months.
You say that your NCOs are tired of hearing about it, and your 1SG doesn't do anything about it. Don't discredit them all just yet. Here is what I suggest:
1)Get enrolled in the MACP if you haven't already
2a) Ask your husband if there are any openings in your MOS and rank in his division that he knows about (ask fellow companies if they want another high-speed MOS)
2b) Find out if there are any openings of his MOS and rank in your division.
2c) Figure out if either of you is willing to deploy now or a second time in a row
3) Talk to re-enlistment about your options and his options too
4) Hop on the Army web-site and find HRC and the name and e-mail address (and phone number if you like) of your branch manager. The person who deals with movement of Soldiers into units to best suit the Army's needs. Be nice, polite and patient with this person!
5) Once you gather this info. construct a well though-out plan (or two or three) of how you two can be together in a way that benefits the Army (i.e. Our sister unit needs a RANK MOS to fill in for...my husband would love to be a memeber of their team for deployment in Aug) present this plan to your chain of command. If you
have to, use the commander and of CSM open door policy, but don't run there first.
I am not justifying an NCO who shirks their responsibilities in taking care of Soldiers, but using the skill of presenting a solution with your problem will serve you well in all you do. If you show that you are ready, willing, and informed in the area of your need, others will me much more inclined to help you.
Good luck. I am in this situation too, but luckily my husband's and my CSMs have been wonderful in helping. It still has taken a year and a half (6 mo to go!), so remember that the Army only moves lightening quick when its something you won't like. E-mail me if you need more help: amy.steffen@us.army.mil
Go Kinetic!