What was the story that you told/wrote to the BCMR? Also, as a male Soldier, how did you get a Parenthood involuntary discharge compared to Dependency? Were you a single parent after a divorce?
From what I read, parenthood has to pay it back while a dependency discharge does not. Did you try to have the BCMR change your discharge to that instead?http://comptroller.defense.gov...rch/07a_09_Oct06.pdf
Page 9-20 states Parenthood has to pay it back but then read below to EXCEPTIONS.
: Hardship and dependency
separations are considered involuntary for the purposes of this paragraph and do not require recoupment of unearned portions of a bonushttp://girightshotline.org/en/...r-hardship-discharge
Go to that website and call that number for assistance.
And if you seen other cases like yours, I will seek those individuals out and see if they have the same type of discharge on their DD214. If that is the case, then you can use that as a precedent.
Here are the differences between Parenthood and Hardship
5–8. Involuntary separation due to parenthood
Soldiers will be considered for involuntary separation when parental obligations interfere with fulfillment of
military responsibilities. (See AR 600–20, chapter 5, concerning Soldiers’ responsibilities for care of family members
as related to military responsibilities.) Specific reasons for separation because of parenthood include—
(1) Inability to perform prescribed duties satisfactorily.
(2) Repeated absenteeism.
(3) Repeated tardiness.
(4) Inability to participate in field training exercises or perform special duties such as CQ and staff duty noncom-
missioned officer (NCO).
(5) Non-availability for worldwide assignment or deployment according to the needs of the Army.
Separation processing may not be initiated under this paragraph until the Soldier has been adequately counseled
concerning deficiencies and has been afforded the opportunity to overcome them. (See para 1–16 and AR 600–20.)
The notification procedure (see chap 2, sec I) will be used for separation under this paragraph.
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For characterization of service or description of separation, see paragraph 5–1.
Commanders specified in paragraph 1–19 are authorized to order separation under this paragraph. See paragraph
1–11 for additional instructions for ARNGUS and USAR Soldiers. The criteria in chapter 1, section VII, will govern
whether the Soldier will be released from AD or ADT with transfer to the IRR, or whether he/she will be discharged.
Soldiers on active duty may be discharged or released (see para 6–10) because of genuine dependency or hardship.
Dependency exists when death or disability of a member of a Soldier’s (or spouse’s) immediate
family causes that member to rely upon the Soldier for principal care or support. (See para 6–5 for definition of
Soldier’s “immediate family.”)
Hardship exists when in circumstances not involving death or disability of a member of the Soldier’s
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(or spouse’s) immediate family, separation from the Service will materially affect the care or support of the family by
alleviating undue and genuine hardship. (See para 6–5 for definition of Soldier’s “immediate family.”)
Parenthood of married Soldiers.
A married Soldier who becomes a parent by birth, adoption, or marriage
(stepparent) and whose child (or children) is less than 18 years of age and resides within the household, may apply for
separation under hardship. The Soldier must submit evidence (see para 6–7
(5)) that the roles of parent and Soldier are
incompatible and that the Soldier cannot fulfill his/her military obligation without neglecting the child or children.
Soldiers who are sole parents and whose children are under 18 years of age and reside within the
household, may apply for separation under hardship. A“sole parent” is defined as a parent who is single by reason of
never having been married, or who is divorced or legally separated and has been awarded child custody by judicial
decree or court order, or who is a widow/widower.
If dependency applies to you, I will get it change to that type of chapter.