I am a 12 year in service SSG. I recently petitioned for divorce after my wife left me and my two boys (age 10 and 2). She moved out and does not provide any monetary support. She only comes and picks them up every other day for a few hours. I been awarded temporary conservatorship pending the final decree which we "EXPECT" it to be aruling of" Joint Management Conservatoryship" (the default in Texas) with me being the primary conservator.
Problem is that I just received orders to Korea for a year. Since the divorce is not final yet, I cannot ask for an accompanied tour (going to Seoul to MEDDAC). I cannot get passports or request overseas screenings without my wife's signature.
I am requesting a deferrement in order to give me time to figure things out, but even if it gets approved, it is only 120 days. I am making the request hoping that the 120 days will give me time to get the final order of divorce and permission to take my boys with me. Problem is that because I will not be SOLE MANAGER CONSERVATOR, I can have geographical restrictions for the boys.
If this is the case, and I cannot take my boys to Korea, i was planning to sign a DCSS and get out in order to take care of my boys. I am not told I DO NOT qualify for a DCSS because I m indefinite (re-up).
Over the past few weeks my wife stated to friends her intent of waiting for me to go so she could file, then I could do nothing. So I went ahead and filed, but it seems like I will have no option but to go to Korea wihtout my boys.
PLEASE HELP! can I sign a DCSS? can I request hardship separation?
I have read the regs on it states that recent award of custody is not grounds for compassionate reassignment/deletion in itself.