If you haven't noticed, the Army is all about paperwork and mindless rules. Yes all we had to have was an ID card to get into the gate, but we were in uniform in government vehicles.
I was in Kabul (the capitol) and was thinking about the hotels there. Lots of journalists and foreigners, and it's STILL not safe. I SERIOUSLY 99.999999% DOUBT there are ANY safe places to stay in Kandahar, and trust me, the bases are so small and tight that within a day people would be asking questions about you hanging out.
PLUS, when do you think your wife will have time to "hang out"? Work shifts are 12hrs/7days a week lots of times. If not MORE.
Once you deploy you'll understand why it is the contractors get paid 2-3times as much to work over there as the same job anywhere else in the world. You'll know why we had to lock and load everytime we drove out the gate.
You just can't imagine anything like it until you've experienced it.
PS- Your Bde S6 has about as much pull in this as my cousin. (who isn't in the Army.
) They might know who to talk with but aren't really going to be able to make it happen for you.