I am currently deployed with a Patriot unit. My wife is prior service, and suffers from PTSD, anxiety and depression. Before our deployment, she became pregnant with our son. The doctor requested that I be a late deployer due to the pregnancy being classified high risk due to my wifes mental ailments and a blood disorder that could cause her to hemorrage if she over exerted herself. This request was denied, and I deployed with the main body of the unit. Before I left, my wife and I developed a family care plan that consisted of her aunt, who resides in Florida, and her grandmother who resides in Dallas, TX. We are currently stationed in Fort Hood. While deployed, the FRG refused to help my wife with household duties, which resulted in our son shifting before delvery. The docter then sent a red cross message to the unit requesting my presence to ensure that she didn't lose the baby or suffer further complications. This request was also denied. During delivery, both my wife and son almost died. Darnall army medical hospital completely butchered my wife during the delivery and she now suffers from several post surgery injuries and ailments as a result. Due to the tramatic nature of the delivery and the fact that they both almost lost their lives, my wife now suffers from post partum depression in conjunction with the previously stated mental health issues. All of this is documented in our EFMP, her VA claim, and her medical records. Due to the fact that they would not let me come home until my R&R leave block, our aunt had to take all of her vacation time for the year to fly to Fort Hood to assist my wife. She is now unable to assist again unless she quits her job. Our grandmother, who was once fully capable of caring for my wife and children, has fallen ill and can no longer perform in that capaicty. My wifes mental health provider sent another red cross message requesting my presence, whoch was once again denied. I was told by our BN commander that until all other agencies and resources were exhausted, he would not entertain the possibility of sending me back. The FRG has refused to help unless we move our children into one of their homes for the duration of the deployment. CYS has been utilized, but the fact that my wife was prescribed several medications to include Xanax which she takes at night, this is ineffective as well. CYS can not care for my children at night while my wife is taking Xanax. The unit stated that they would ask Darnall if they could send a nurse to our home at night to care for our children, which of course was denied. My son has issues breathing because of the tramatic nature of the delivery, and only a medically trained person would be suitable to watch him. My wife had to take special classes to be able to care for him. I expressed all of my concerns to the chain of command, and was caounseled on my lack of a family care plan. I told them that if that's what it takes to ensure the safety of my wife and children then so be it. My wife has expressed suicidal thoughts, and the chain of command is pretty much rolling the dice on whether or not she will do it. I know she will, because she has attemtped before, and if I hadn't walked in when I did, she would have succeeded. The BN commander is determined to keep me here even with all these things in play. He has all but ignored the family care plan chapter process. What can i do to make this process faster. I have filed a congressional and spoken to my senator. Is there anything else I can do? Thank you in advance for your informative responses.